Well, you’ve met a lovely and charming guy. You spend a lot of time together, but it’s only been a few weeks (or even a few months). He’s a long way from getting down on one knee with a ring or bringing up the subject of moving in together.
Christmas is almost upon us and you’re not sure what to get him, something nice that he’ll appreciate, but you’re not sure what he’s giving you.
It is very hard not to get carried away and spend large amounts of money trying to get that perfect gift. We all expect to be overwhelmed with awe-struck gratitude and effusive thanks after our beautifully wrapped and thoughtful gift is opened.
So, do you think you’ll get that from any of the following:
1. A box of toiletries.
The classic “stores are about to close and I have no idea” present.
2. A range of scented candles (or candlesticks).
The sad gift that will be re-wrapped and given to someone else (or maybe even you) next year.
3. A fun calendar.
Cute puppies and kittens or a muscular man with a towel artfully placed to protect his modesty may seem like a funny idea; stop right there, it’s not!
“To give an experience like
a gift is wonderful.
The list of boring gifts can go on and on. We usually get what we want by buying it for ourselves.
A gift must have a “I didn’t know I wanted this, but I love it” quality to be memorable. I can count on one hand the gifts that have left a lasting impression on me.
Do you have to reassemble your house to get the most extravagant gift imaginable? Do you go to the car dealership to buy a sexy little sports car and wrap it with a big red bow?
The answer is, of course not. Although, if you want to spend money, remember that some of the best extravagant gifts are often the ones that are shared, romantic and thoughtful.
You don’t have to spend a large amount on a gift. Spending time together is priceless, so buying a gift you can share is ideal.
Of course, getting something to unwrap is great, but giving the gift of an experience is wonderful.
So, what do I mean?
Here are the top three gift ideas that can further develop a solid foundation for your relationship.
1. Organize a long weekend somewhere fun.
Choose a place where you can enjoy each other’s company and spend quality time together.
2. Book a meal at a decent restaurant.
Do it in a special and romantic place.
3. Arrange to do something you can share (and enjoy).
Try a cocktail class or a wine tasting session.
With gifts like these, you can tease your partner by associating the experience with something they can unwrap.
As a travel gift, you can attach travel plans to a toy airplane. Give a bottle of champagne to accompany the plans for a nice meal, or surprise your date with a cocktail shaker or something related to the class you booked.
These gifts are wonderful memory makers, with the added benefit that you will also enjoy the experiences, and now you both have an event to look forward to.