You have lived long enough to understand the absolute power of the feminine mystique. Men love everything about women and will do anything to get close to them. You can probably get a man simply by snapping your fingers and beckoning him, but it’s probably best to start with the traditional way of getting his attention: flirting.
Flirting can be visual, verbal, physical, subliminal or even aromatic. All’s fair in love, so if you appeal to a man’s weaknesses, needs, senses and desires, you should have no problem attracting and getting his attention.
1. Dress for success.
Men are still men. Their first instinct stems from their lustful desire to experience the charms of a woman. It’s not wrong. It’s just nature.
If you want her to see you as a woman rather than a generic, genderless human being, wear a dress or something nice. If you look like you’re going to a dogfight, you’ll attract dogs.
You don’t need to fix your hair to go to the grocery store, but always look feminine when you go out. You never know when you’ll meet the man who could be your new partner. As long as your hair is clean and you’re well dressed, that’s all that matters.
Ditch the scarf, cardigan sweatshirt or sweater and rolled up socks. A hat is fine in the winter, but show off your face, eyes and smile. Accentuate the best parts of your figure and show a little skin below the knee. You still have it, so wear it.
2. Be a girl.
Women have always been at the top of the food chain, but the most successful in love have always managed to lead their men from behind. Softness and apparent vulnerability are a big part of what attracts a man.
Big eyes, the need for her strength, a smile straight from heaven and the scent of a meadow on an April morning will make all men acutely aware that they are in the presence of a lady.
Make eye contact with the one you like, smile and strike up a conversation or ask for their help.
“Flirting is still the best way.
to create an instant link.
3. Talk, touch and laugh.
When you find yourself in a one-on-one situation with a man, that’s your chance to close the deal. Keep the eye contact and smile, of course, but also turn up the charm a notch.
That doesn’t mean you have to be fake. Your charm is the part of you that makes you the woman you are.
Engage him with your wit and wisdom, ask him insightful questions and bring out his personality as well. You both feel very comfortable with yourselves now, so naturally you will also feel more comfortable with each other.
Sexual overtones will not overwhelm the situation because they have the maturity and confidence to interact with each other in a very human and casual way.
Pat his arm or touch his hand in the course of your conversation. You can even find an excuse to take his hand between yours, either to massage his knuckle joints or to examine his ring.
The touch is not for you. It’s for him. He will be delighted with your touch and will want more.
Be sure to share a laugh, as it’s a good way to bond and make him or her feel comfortable, and you can always suggest meeting for coffee in the morning soon to continue the conversation.
Flirting is still the best way to create an instant, friendly bond with a man in a way that can carry a twinge of romance without any real commitment to scare him off or put him off.
Since everything is on an openly friendly level, there should be no real fear of rejection for either of you. It’s a first step that you can quickly and easily back out of if you don’t like the feeling, but it can also be the start of something beautiful.
