3 steps to introduce yourself to lesbian women


Introducing yourself to that hot lesbian you spied doesn’t have to be difficult or scary. Let me share three steps to making your move.

First, let’s take a picture in your head of the opportunity:

You’re at your favorite coffee shop sipping your morning latte, half coffee, half skim. Behind the counter is a new employee who takes your breath away. wow!

She has all the telltale signs that she is a lesbian. After your immediate reaction to her, your next thought is, “How do I ask her out?”

Step 1.

Simply say hello, make eye contact, introduce yourself, ask for their name, make small talk and be friendly.

Like this: “Hi, my name is Mary. I haven’t seen you behind the counter before – you must be new?”

Then let her respond. Don’t hold your breath and listen to be sure and get her name. Yes, she probably has a name tag, but it is important that you show interest in listening to her.

She replies, “Hi, I’m Carolyn. Yes, I’m new here. Nice to meet you too. So far, it’s a great place to work.”

Then she responded that she’s new in the business and you say something nice like, “Well, it’s wonderful to meet you. Are you new to the area too?

Again, it’s a simple question. It’s non-threatening and you sound interested in her. All gay girls like that.

Your goal is to make a good impression.

“The most important rule is not to be

attached to the result. She could say yes or no.

Step 2.

This is when she comes back to the coffee shop in a day or two. There she is behind the counter.

Now you’re talking on a first-name basis with her, so start with the usual small talk and look for that important and specific information: is she single?

You may have learned that she is new to the area, so ask her if she moved here with her partner.

She lets you know that she is single and moved to the area alone. Perfect, right?

Maybe she mentions a couple of great places to visit in the city. Then you leave leaving another positive impression along with the knowledge of the important information that she is single.

Step 3.

This is when you come back again in a day or two. Now you will feel like old friends.

Talk a little more about the tidbits you’ve shared and, toward the end of your transaction, say:

“I really enjoy talking with you and we seem to have some things in common. I’ve lived here for a long time and know the city well. Would you be interested in a brief tour of the city some afternoon or maybe just having a cup of coffee sometime?”

There you have done it. You’ve asked her out.

Here’s the deal:

By repeatedly showing up at the coffee shop (bank, store, bar, restaurant, etc.), you have created a sense of familiarity and security. She is happy to see you.

And how you notice the way you ask her out is important. You want to give her the ability to decline gracefully and not feel cornered.

You are making a clear statement about yourself and then asking him about his interest and availability.

The most important dating rule you can follow for yourself in this interaction is to not be attached to the outcome. She could say yes or no.

If you are more shy than outgoing, you may repeat Step 2 several times until you feel more comfortable and know more about her.

Have you ever tried this approach? If so, what were the results?


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