By the time you’re in your 50s and 60s, one of the great pleasures of dating is all the high-pressure expectations evoked by Hollywood and lifestyle magazines go out the window.
Singles over 50 are looking for a partner who is a real person. Sure you take care of yourself and you’re physically active, but
1.You are not as smooth as you used to be.
You’re not James Bond and that’s okay, she’s not a Bond girl either. Well, maybe she was a Bond girl since so many of them are now over 50. Think Ursula Andress, Jill St. John and Jane Seymour.
Still, she doesn’t expect you to beat three bad guys in her living room before the first date.
However, she expects you to pick her up for the first date. Go to her house, open the car door for her and pay for the date.
Bonus: She is less demanding and more emotionally mature, requiring less of the constant reassurance that women under 40 need. What a relief!
She also doesn’t expect you to have Bond’s sexual prowess. There’s less pressure, but she’s still interested.
Remember, the baby boom generation brought us the sexual revolution and multiple birth control options – thank goodness! While you may no longer have to worry about pregnancy, you still need to protect yourself against STDs.
You are not as fast as you used to be.
So what if you can’t do five cartwheels and knock out villains with your left hook when you walk her out the door after your date? That’s okay. She doesn’t expect you to.
However, she expects you to walk her to the door and maybe walk her out.
When you walk into his house and he offers you a nightcap (because you’re over 50 and alcohol affects you differently than when you were free and 21), you should probably ask for some juice, sparkling water or herbal tea.
Relax and settle back on the couch. Enjoy adult conversation and senior kisses.
She doesn’t expect you to audition for the Sexual Olympics like a 35-year-old woman does. If you wait until the fifth date or later to do more, she’ll be happy with that. She wants to get to know you first.
3.You are not as fit as you used to be.
You don’t need a perfect physique to capture her romantic interest. Nor do you have to compete in a death match against all the other men on senior dating sites to get a first date with her.
However, you should engage her in conversation in your email exchanges before asking her out on a first date.
One of the delights of dating after 50 is that both middle-aged men and women have the ability to carry on a conversation, which gives you an edge against younger guys who flirt with her.
Older women are looking for a real relationship, not a fantasy out of a romantic movie.
Women over 50 are some of the hottest women out there. Not only do they take care of themselves physically, but they are also super attractive because they want relationships with men who are real and down to earth, men like you.
