Taking care of your safety is the last thing you want to think about when you get caught up in the excitement of dating. Although the chances of you getting into a dangerous dating situation are slim, you still need to take care of yourself and make sure you protect yourself and be prepared for the possible unsafe scenarios that the dating world has to offer you.
1. Meet in public places.
Always meet other men somewhere public so you can get to know them a little and you can read about the energy they procrastinate.
Even if you’re meeting someone for casual sex, it’s a good idea to meet him somewhere public just a couple of minutes beforehand to make sure no red flags go up. It’s better to realize that a guy looks really creepy in person in a crowded coffee shop than in his apartment.
2. Make sure someone knows where you are.
If you ignore the above advice, or if you meet a stranger in public and then decide to go somewhere private with him, make sure a friend knows where you are going to be and who you are going to be with.
I know it’s kind of a mood killer, but get identifying information from men you know and send what you have to a friend you trust.
Any guy worth hitting on will be fine if you take a precaution or two.
“You might rush into a relationship just to
realize that he is not the man you thought he was”.
3. Be alert while in public sex venues.
Public sex venues and crossover sites are not as popular these days as they once were, as most modern men seeking anonymous encounters prefer to use phone apps and websites like Grindr to hook up with other men.
But these locations still exist, and if you’re going to use one, you should keep your wits about you. Most of these locations are perfectly safe and so are the encounters you’ll have in them (as long as you use protection), but you still want to make sure someone you trust knows where you’re going (or where you frequent ).
4. Always use protection.
This is an obvious safety rule, but easy to forget in the heat of the moment. Most of the danger you will encounter is not the assault, kidnapping or hostage-taking type. Most of the danger you’ll encounter while out and about relates to catching something because you weren’t careful.
You can get an STI from all kinds of sexual acts, and some STIs are certainly more serious than others. But as a general rule, you should always use condoms and avoid too much direct contact with anyone who might transmit an STI, unless you are in a monogamous/monogamous relationship with them and both of you have been tested within a reasonable incubation period for any type of infection. Either of you could have an STI.
5. Don’t rush into a relationship.
This last tip has more to do with emotional safety than physical safety. Probably don’t rush into a relationship with a man and then realize he’s a serial killer and you’re his next target.
But you might rush into a relationship with a man only to realize that a month or two later he’s not the man you thought he was. Don’t be so easily devastated.
If he’s perfect for you after two dates, he’ll still be perfect for you after six months, which is a reasonable time frame for deciding to make someone an important part of your life.