I’m driving in my car when Calvin Harris’ new dance tune “Summer” plays on the radio.
“When I met you in the summer, to the sound of my heartbeat, we fell in love” go the lyrics.
Memorial Day weekend marks the beginning of the wonderful summer season. The sun is shining full force, as are all the shirtless men. You know you’re getting a look!
Everyone is out and about. There’s an energy this time of year that’s ready to fall in love, so what’s your plan to maximize your dating efforts and land a hot boyfriend this summer?
If you’ve been procrastinating and are ready to come out of hibernation, now is the time to revitalize and start really living!
There are a lot of single gay guys (like you) interested in meeting someone new for the possibility of dating and mating.
This is not the time to be passive.
Very rarely does love come knocking on one’s door, and it’s important to devise a game plan on how to take advantage of the season and make this summer your year for successful dating.
While there is no magic formula for getting a boyfriend, since dating is more of an art than a science, there are some revealing activities you can do that will increase your prognosis and give you a sense of control over your own love life.
Here are some things to consider:
1. Take care of yourself inside and out.
Nothing is sexier than a man who takes care of his mind, body and soul.
Whether this means working out more at the gym, stimulating your mind by taking an interesting class, meeting with a counselor to work out any emotional issues or for personal growth or tapping into spirituality, this will help you have a sense of balance. and health that many find appealing.
This can also emit a stronger magnetism than any pheromone.
2. Be visible and say yes more often.
Mr. Right is out there, but you won’t meet him unless you mix and mingle in a variety of social circles and experiences.
The more socializing opportunities you seek, the greater your chances of meeting new and interesting people, including other potential dating prospects.
When we get tired of dating, it’s easy to isolate and/or turn down invitations to do things with people.
Force yourself to participate in a variety of activities this summer.
You will soon discover that your feelings of commitment and enthusiasm begin to take advantage of this behavior.
Plus, when making new friends, you never know what kind of connections you might make.
3. Know who Mr. Right is
You need to do your homework before you jump in.
Choosing potential boyfriends based solely on chemistry and attraction is not always a smart strategy.
Do some pre-planning by creating a vision for your future and identifying your personal requirements for a life-long partner and relationship.
By using your non-negotiable needs as a guide for selecting potential dates, you will be more successful if you align yourself with more compatible partners and save time and energy.
4. Plan your summer calendar
By spreading yourself across a variety of dating sites, you will avoid becoming too dependent on any one environment (i.e., online personals).
See what’s happening in your community during the summer months and start scheduling commitments to attend these events.
Gay pride events, parades, street fairs, volunteer opportunities, sports clubs, festivals and gay social networking sites are just a few of the ideas. Endless possibilities abound.
5. Become your own Mr. Right
Since we have no control over what others will do, it is important that you channel your energies into becoming as complete and accessible as possible for your own personal growth; you win either way.
Take stock of those areas of your life that you feel you need to work on the most, be it self-esteem, assertiveness, flirting, boundaries, shyness, etc.
By taking time to strengthen these parts of your life, you will improve your quality of life and, secondly, you will be more prepared for a relationship when it arises.
