Now that the clock has changed and you’re over 50, you’ve probably noticed how different dating is.
Thank God you’re not in your 20s, ladies, and you go to singles bars. That’s not where the older men in their 40s, 50s and 60s are.
What’s better now? You know what it really takes to find mature love!
1. This is the body you have
Body acceptance has fully kicked in. This is the body you have. Embrace it.
You can no longer even conceive of going braless as an expression of feminist freedom.
Trinny Woodall and Susannah Constantine, as well as Stacy London and Clinton Kelly, have taught him that hoops and good construction provide support, hoisting and lifting are all his friends now.
That doesn’t mean you have to compromise on sex appeal. You can have great looking women’s bras and panties in fabulous colors.
Second, you can look great, maybe even better, after 50. Female baby boomers are more likely to be fit and participate in some sort of fitness regimen than earlier generations, from yoga and Pilates to dance classes and Zumba.
It’s your body! I love it!
2. Appointments take longer
The mating process from the first meeting until he asks you out takes longer, sometimes much longer than when you were 25.
The pace of senior dating, let alone meeting men in their 50s and 60s, seems to take longer now.
And that’s good!
You’re not in the same rush to get married that a 30-year-old single woman is in because of her ticking biological clock.
You can take your time to meet the right man and build a wonderful relationship for this stage of life.
3. Being real attracts more men than being a diva.
Surely men over 50 want a woman to dress up and look extra special for the closing night of the symphony season.
Yes, he expects you to wear a sophisticated and feminine cocktail dress when you attend the city opera together.
Other than that, he is really happy to see you in comfortable clothes, as long as your appearance is attractive.
The relationship-driven man wants a partner who has a down-to-earth side with whom he can relax and share the fun things in life. He is not looking for a woman who uses a spa on a daily basis and requires a lot of maintenance.
You’re perfect for him now. Phew! What a relief. You can relax!
4. You get invited to lunch a lot
While it loses certain body language cues when meeting for the first time in daylight, many baby boomer men prefer the informality of a lunch date for a first date.
The great thing about these lunch dates is that you are often treated to some wonderful locally owned restaurant that you may never have tried before.
The food is usually delicious and tasty, and you don’t have to rush out exactly 60 minutes later because of the next dinner.
Sometimes, men are simply less aggressive than they were when they were 27. And that’s okay because that would be exhausting now, wouldn’t it?
5. You have to make love a priority
You know that after 50 you really have to make an effort.
Maybe your girlfriends have stopped looking for a mature boyfriend and life partner now that they are in their 50s and 60s.
They accepted the idea that there are fewer single men in their 50s and 60s, but not you!
You decided that you were going to be one of the women who found love again in middle age that others envy.
You looked in the mirror, updated your hairstyle and makeup, spruced up your closet a bit, and made an effort to do a variety of activities to meet people. You posted an online dating profile and communicated with men there.
But not only that, you used real-world activities to go out and have a fun and engaging social life.
And guess what, all your efforts paid off! You’re meeting new men and dating. You’re feeling hopeful, glowing and a little pleased with yourself, aren’t you?
You have a feeling that love with the right man is just around the corner – who knows, maybe you’ll meet him this year, maybe you already have!