This week the USA celebrates its Independence Day. That was each day I did previously celebrate personally every day: INDEPENDENCE!
Now, after 14 many years of being married to some man who values my independence AND opens pickle jars for me, lends his fine brain to my decision-making, and generally has my back…I am proud to celebrate my DEpendence.
How about you? How can you feel about depending on a guy?
It’s no surprise that we boomer women consider being dependent as a fate almost worse than death.
When I was in senior high school my father told me I better take typing classes and so i might get a “good secretarial job.” Dad also pushed me to visit college…and so i may find a successful man to marry.
Gloria Steinem taught us about our tremendous power as women and that we didn’t require a man to achieve success. Gloria asserted “a lady without a man is like a fish with no bicycle.”
We spent decades fighting for respect and advancement in the business world covered with men, most of whom wanted no a part of granting us any kind of advantage or influence.
And most of us was raised watching our mothers who had little or no control of their destiny. Plus they were stuck there.
Why wouldn’t we despise the thought of not online resources Our Own Universe?
Look, whether it wasn’t for Gloria, Bella, and the other powerful feminist messengers from the times, we certainly wouldn’t possess the opportunities and successes that we currently enjoy as women.
The other thing we wouldn’t have, though, is the fear and dread of neeeeeding someone…especially needing a M-A-N. I do not think it was the message our brave leaders set out to deliver!
Yes, the feminist movement empowered us to have treatments for our lives, which our mothers and grandmothers never had. But that governance didn’t need to be at the cost of feeling SHAME over welcoming the contribution and bit of support of the good man.
Somehow the women’s movement got construed by many of us because the “I don’t need no stinkin’ man” movement.
Dependence: your counting on or needing someone or something like that for aid, support, or even the like.
If you’ve read my eBook 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love After 40, you know that independence was my BADGE OF HONOR for a decades. And now here I am, based on a guy every day. My entire life decisions, my livelihood, my overall happiness…yep, I rely on him to aid me by using it all.
Now that’s some scary shit.
But here’s what else is scary:
The considered being alone as I age.
The thought of having to do everything in everyday life by myself, as I did for 30 years.
The considered living without the passion for a good man.
Now That's scary.
I know I talk and write a great deal about men needing to be needed. That’s not what my Dependence Day celebration is all about. D-Day is about what you'll get by accepting. It’s about doing something that enables you to be happy for the rest of your life.
Last year I was considering this as i was around the beach switch my husband and granddaughter. There’s wind noise and that i seem like crap, however i hope you could possibly get past that to listen to my message and also the assignment I’m providing you with.
I’d love to hear your ideas and know how you will perform the assignment. Tell me! Leave your comments here.