Don’t you hate as he promised a date but leaves you sitting there wondering if you’re really going out? I mean you are both over 40, so why still play these “who should call” games?
So, in the event you call him up? Here’s the solution, sister.
It’s Monday and you’re talking on the phone having a nice guy you’re interested in. After some chit-chat he finally asks you out of trouble on a date. It goes something like this:
Nice Guy: Do you want to go out for dinner Saturday night?
You: Yes, that would be nice.
Nice Guy: Okay, I’ll phone you later within the week to set the plans. I’m looking forward to it.
You: Me too. Talk then.
You like him, and you’re looking forward to Saturday. In fact, you’re already wondering what you’re likely to wear and what you’re likely to talk about.
Wednesday there is no call. Thursday there isn't any call. Friday morning comes, and you wonder, “Do we also have a date?” You’re disappointed: perhaps a little mad. You’re fretting over how to proceed next.
Wednesday there isn't any call.
Thursday there isn't any call.
Friday morning comes, and you wonder, “Do we also have a date?”
What should I do? Must i call him?
You email your friend or perhaps your dating coach and get: What should I do? Must i call him?
Unfortunately, this can be a common situation, even when you are gone 40, “should I call” is still a dilemma – particularly when you’re meeting men using internet dating. Below is my email exchange with my private coaching client, “Jean.”
Not only will i answer whether she should call him, I help her make sure this case doesn’t happen again.
Here is her letter in my experience:
My date for Saturday hasn’t confirmed place or time. Basically don’t listen to him with this afternoon, could it be okay basically email or call him up and ask him as still on?
Hi Jean. No. I wouldn't email or call him.
I know it's difficult to wait – kind of painful even. Not to mention a total waste of time – But he asked you out of trouble and, although it was in the environment concerning the details, it was set to do a particular thing on a particular night. This is a date, right? Wait and find out what he is doing.
Not calling him and waiting it out will reveal his true character.
Whether a man keeps his word is very important. It’s on your list like a must-have, isn’t it?
You want him to know you’re seriously interested in getting a man whose word you can trust and that you respect yourself and expect him to too. As essential as letting him take the lead, especially at the start.
The gal who emails “just to confirm” sends the signal she’s prepared to accept him even if he doesn’t come through with his promises. And you, Jean, are not that gal.
You are generally over 40, and he's either matured enough to keep his word about calling you, or he hasn't.
That gal also says “yes” when he calls on Friday afternoon for any Friday evening date. She’s the girl he plays with, not the main one he marries.
I’m not saying that if he doesn’t get in contact, you need to ignore him. Something might have show up out of the ordinary that prevented him from coming through.
But it’s vital that you see what he’s going to do without prompting. Hold tight! This is when you place the interest rate for all which comes next.
Here's a method to avoid this later on.
When he asks if you want to go out and then says he’ll call later within the week, tell him something similar to this very kindly:
“You know, I’m really looking forward to seeing you, we’ll have a good time! My schedule is fairly hectic a few days ago. [Make sure you qualify that it’s a few days ago so he doesn’t obtain the impression you’re so busy that you simply won’t have time for him.] It is always good when we could make our dinner plans now. This way we are able to be sure it really works out. Would that be okay with you?”
If he’s seriously interested in getting to know you, he’ll spend the additional few minutes it requires to make a plan, or he’ll commit to when he’s likely to call back with details.
If he doesn’t do either, it gives you some valuable insight. Maybe he isn’t seriously interested in dating and relationships? Bummer, but good to know!
So, in the event you call him up when he doesn't call you? I think you realize the answer now!
Let me know how it goes, Jean. I’m here when you really need me!
Big hug… ~Bp