The women I am lucky enough to get coach come to me because they want to find love. They have had career success, family success, and they've already ticked a lot business bucket list.
Now they're laser-focused on adding delicious, committed love to their already good lives. Ranging in age from mid-30s to 70s, so far this grownup love story may be the something that has alluded them.
Sound familiar?
WTF?
We women of a certain age are used to exerting our skills, will and control to get what we want. We finally figured out how to get it done, it's worked beautifully for a long time and now it's how we roll, right?
SMART. WOMEN. MAKE. THINGS. HAPPEN.
But this is NOT the way men want this love thing to roll.
In fact, with regards to grownup men and creating meaningful relationships with them, the alternative is a lot nearer to the reality.
Want to find love? Then release to let love in.
Or, as numerous have believed to me: why can’t you just chill?
Here is an excerpt from the conversation in my private Facebook group that tells you more. Let me know if the rings a bell for you personally, ok?
Did this make you squirm a little bit? Have any flashbacks? Would you like to find love a lot you’ve been over determining your sex life?
I get it! If you are leading with your anxiety about scarcity and try to control everything you’re directing your love boat right into a giant iceberg.
How about this: rather than trying to MAKE love happen, maybe you can just LET love happen. That’s precisely what I did when my spouse and i met in 2006 and fell in love. Proved helpful for me personally!)
Here’s how to date more mindfully. Keep your eyes and heart open. Keep being familiar with yourself and men. Enjoy your moments. Live your best life. Let. Love. Find. You.
LET. LOVE. FIND. YOU.
Can you relate? Yes, you need to find love. But ask yourself: What can you just do a little differently to welcome love in rather than trying to force it? Let me hear from you.