The latest season from the Bachelorette starring Becca Kufrin is within full swing, with Monday marking another round of roses and eliminations. As the show always seems to deliver on its commitment of drama, romance and ridiculous men fighting over one woman (while supplying the perfect excuse to guzzle wine on the Monday night, ahem), within the many seasons, the Bachelorette franchise has also gifted me with something else: gratitude. Watching Becca deal with suitors in chicken suits and self-obsessed male models makes me incredibly thankful that i am not on that demonstrate and i also can just online date like a normal person.
Here are a few things that are commonplace around the Bachelorette but would not, ever happen while internet dating in real life:
- Large group dates that involve 10 men fighting for that attention of one woman.
While theoretically, the thought of a bunch of men fighting over me sounds like a fantasy come true, there's simply no chance this kind date happens the truth is — and thank goodness. As this season has shown, this option don't have any issue being petty and stirring up drama amongst themselves.
Plus, when you're out with a large group of people and they are all vying for your attention, it's almost impossible to get any quality one-on-one time with anyone (the truth that Becca seems to make this happen whatsoever is impressive and kind of shocking). Online dating allows you to hang out with one individual at any given time without ever having to complete a marriage-themed obstacle course together (unless that's your jam).
- Being serenaded with a wannabe folk-rock-country singer looking to springboard his reality TV appearance right into a music career.
Some women find unexpected musical performances romantic. However, as somebody who used to be serenaded in a Vietnamese restaurant while on a blind date by having an aspiring gangsta rapper, I can verify the fact that it isn't. People stare to you plus they might even politely ask you to leave the restaurant (#truestory). Yet, when the Bachelorette encounters one of these musical Romeos, she's instructed to play nice on camera, even if (if she's anything like a normal human woman) every ounce of her being is screaming, “please, please, stop singing.”
- Exotic date locations with multiple men.
The last three instances of any Bachelorette season are often filmed in a foreign country. The Bachelorette is whisked away with her final suitors for an exotic locale, where she'll continue dates and choose which guy she'd prefer to marry. Although it would be out of this world to go on a fantasy date for an exotic island in a foreign country, as someone who doesn't even like going to parties that are not readily available by Uber, the isolation combined with the pressure to choose an existence partner sounds more stressful than romantic. This is the great thing about internet dating: you are able to meet in a Starbucks or perhaps a bar near your house and if things don't exercise, you can refer to it as an evening using the comfort that you won't be stuck on a literal desert island together with your date for 3-4 episodes.
- You're instructed to find your life-partner after the season.
Helicopter rides, exotic locations, and over the top drama aside, the craziest thing about the Bachelorette is the fact that contestants are pretty much obligated to find their life partner by the end of the season. Finding the right relationship requires a large amount of learning from mistakes. Despite what TV will have us think, you cannot rush love. Among the best reasons for online dating is that it enables you to date at the own pace, when the time is appropriate rather than once the director yells, “that's a wrap!”