Here's the scenario: you meet someone online that you simply think has real potential and ask them out. The date is approaching and you're already freaking out by what you'll discuss. You want to hold their attention making the best impression possible.
One of the most popular pitfalls of first dates is that they sometimes possess the tendency to feel like selection interviews. Here are a few clever items to ask your date that will help you learn more about them while keeping the conversation interesting.
- If you were given a free air travel ticket and accommodation, where can you probab to visit?
In my experience, everyone gets excited about traveling— especially when it involves daydreaming about their ultimate fantasy destination (sidebar: if they don't, then this real question is a good litmus test!) Maybe it's a trip to the Maldives or hiking Mt. Kilimanjaro, you can study so much in regards to a person based on where they have been where they'd like to go.
- What's on your bucket list?
Similar to question #1, it's always interesting to listen to about someone's bucket list. Researching someone's weird and wacky dreams (go swimming with dolphins! Visit China! Eat an Ostrich burger!) is usually very revelatory and beats asking, “So, where do you see yourself in five or Ten years?”
- What did you want to be when you was raised?
This is a great strategy for finding out what someone was like in their youth without coming off like a therapist (example, “So let me know about your childhood”). It's always fun to look back at being a kid and laugh at all the things you did not know — for example, when I was seven years old, my dream job was “ballerina/private detective/pop star” and it totally came true! (Just kidding).
In lieu of asking “So, where do you turn?” this question allows you to segue into getting your date to speak about their career. Does their current job at all fall into line using their dreams? This is something I'm always curious about when I'm understanding somebody new.
- If you could design your dream concert lineup of artists (living or dead), who'd be on the marquee?
I love asking this question because it's so much more fun than simply asking them, “So, um, do you like music?” People tend to get excited if they are referring to their most favorite artists. Plus, when the other person says they'd include 2Pac and Prince, I pretty much know that we're destined to be soulmates. On the flipside, when they say “I don't really know” or “I'm not really into music” it's a great indication that we posess zero whole lot in common.
- What's the most important thing you've learned in the past Twelve months?
Not only is this question super clever and original, but it's also a great way to take the date to a deeper place emotionally without having to say, “TELL ME ALL OF YOUR DEEP DARK SECRETS.” Whether it's a big work victory or something they learned about relationships, many people welcome the chance to reflect — something which doesn't usually happen when you ask generic date questions.