On the very first season of Aziz Ansari's Netflix comedy series Master of None, protagonist Dev decides to impress his love interest Rachel having a weekend away to Nashville – for his or her first date. Typically this sounds like a occur, but the weekend away ends up going swimmingly until, of course, it doesn't.
That first weekend away has the potential to make or break rapport. So, before you pop the issue, “Would you like to go away next weekend?” it's best to lay down some ground work. While Dev and Rachel wound up reconciling after the episode and growing in the experience, it's better to be ready ahead of time so that your first getaway together is not a total disaster.
Whether you're going to a summer camping trip, a weekend in Nashville or some much needed R&R in a beach house, here are some items to keep in mind.
Go when the timing feels right.
There's no wrong or right time for you to take that first short trip together, but going away for the first date isn't exactly advised. Instead, you ought to have several overnight sleepovers under your belt and hopefully have met some of their friends before you take that step. The point is you need to understand this individual prior to committing to spending Two days straight together.
Plan something you'll both enjoy.
It might seem romantic to plan a “the perfect surprise trip” for the new beloved, but if you've just started dating, you might not yet possess a superior idea of what that appears like. I mean, your boyfriend or girlfriend requires a lot of long showers, to ensure that must mean they'd love a weekend in a spa, right? Wrong. You'll probably determine that the thought of spending some time in a spa makes them cry with boredom or that they find a weekend from the grid in the center of the woods more anxiety-inducing than romantic. Until you've really had a opportunity to get to know each other, collaborate in your weekend plans so that you can develop an experience you'll both enjoy.
Sort out money beforehand.
To avoid any awkward moments while you are away, have a frank discussion beforehand about who’s spending money on what. Perhaps you're going 50/50 with an Airbnb a treadmill person insists on treating – whatever you decide, just be sure you're clear on what's happening prior to you heading out.
Be clear about sexpectations.
If you haven't been intimate together yet, a weekend away often has the implication of sex (alone time, romantic setting, high thread count sheets.) Whether you've slept together yet or otherwise, come with an open discussion about what you're confident with before you go away.
Be available to discovering one another's habits.
Maybe your lover snores or you have this “weird foot thing” that needs you travel with tubes of ointment – whatever it is, weekend trips possess the tendency to create out habits that you may not have access to noticed before during your previous sleepovers. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, it just means you're really understanding each other. If you still think they're pretty darn awesome (foot thing and all) by the end of the weekend, learning about one another's habits can help build intimacy and, hence, move the relationship forward.
Respect your partner's privacy.
Even if you had an excellent steamy make-out session in the sauna together, that doesn't mean your lover isn't entitled to some privacy. Simply because you're away together doesn't provide you with all-access for their life. If you need something using their overnight bag, ask first. Avoid using this as an chance to snoop through their stuff. You might find that giant vat of foot ointment they are really not prepared to speak with you about yet. Just saying.
Be open to imperfection.
Finally, forget about the concept that everything about your first trip together will be perfect. It won't. You're two people who've never gone away together. Between learning each other's habits, logistics and travel details, there's bound to be considered a few hiccups. Don't worry! Not things are likely to be perfect and that's OK. Try to possess a sense of humor and be flexible. Instead of concentrating on everything that's wrong or could go wrong, try to reside in as soon as and understand the time together for what it's: the first weekend away together.